Episode 11 Why the abuser needs a reaction and how to stop feeding the monster

In this episode I want to discuss reactions and why the emotional abuse loves to play with your emotions 

 

This is coming up again in the my group The Divorce Sanctuary on FB so I thought I would talk about it this week. 

They love pushing your buttons and they do or say things to get a reaction. 

During the idealisation stage they listened to you - they validated you - they heard you in a way no one had ever done before they know your wounds - they know exactly where you wounds are.

They want you to respond this way - in fact they NEED you to react in this way - they are then able to say - this is what I had to put up with - look at this crazy person… 

LEARN MY STOP DROP ROLL TECHNIQUE, I have ALSO used this in another video 7 Things you can do to Outsmart a Narcissist.

 

Healing the Original Wound is the ideal scenario but you can learn the tools to help you recover from this abuse. 

 

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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8

BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8