The MINDFUCKERY Podcast
I’m your host Elizabeth Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA! Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU! I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
An eye fo an eye
I think it is a natural response when you experience being hurt of duped by someone that you hope they experience something similar or treated in a similar way, particularly when you have been hurt by them and are in pain.
Is it a natural response when you experience being hurt of duped by someone that you hope they experience something similar or treated in a similar way?
Use the pain to guide your healing and lets get this party started!
Inner Healing Sanctuary
Grief is such an important part of your healing journey | Grieving the Past Present and Future
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
You might think yeah I am so far away from that at the moment or wonder what is bliss…
I remember going through so many emotions - a rollercoaster of them over a few hours would be a great description and then as I started to recover over days and then weeks…
Following your bliss is about discovering what make you happy. If you think of yourself of train tracks and you come to a junction, perhaps the lever has been stuck, you have been here before, can you imaging those long levers that put a train on a different line?
Your bliss has been waiting for you, its your birth right. When you follow your bliss, you are enjoying life within you, all the time. Good things are happening to you and around you!
when you can finally say I'm free https://youtu.be/mR7Y8CMCDug
why you need to emotionally divorce them first https://youtu.be/rafR5HMiiC0
#findingyourbliss #Soulpurpose #findingyourwhy
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jan 17, 2023
Tuesday Jan 17, 2023
Not all emotional abusers are particularly clever but what they all know is how to manipulate people to get what they want so they made it their job a very early stage in the relationship to understand you and they knew exactly what you were worth but at the end of the relationship they devalued and discarded you and you felt empty lonely and worthless
at the beginning of the relationship the emotional abuser did some calculations and they worked out your ROI
Return on Investment (ROI) is a performance measure used to evaluate the efficiency of an investment or compare the efficiency of a number of different investments. ROI tries to directly measure the amount of return on a particular investment, relative to the investment's cost.
Episode 29 The Queens Gambit
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-ebynx-12f8003
Episode 40 BOX BREATHING ON STEROIDS https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-536fk-135cd67
FREE Self Care Workbook | Free Self-Care Workbook
IT STOPS HERE IT STOPS NOW | It Stops Here Workshop
The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan
#dirtyjohn #netflixdirtyjohn
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jan 10, 2023
Tuesday Jan 10, 2023
B is for BOUNDARIES • The definition of a BOUNDARY is a line which marks an area; a dividing line. We understand the BOUNDARY that surrounds a property to mark an area.
Personal BOUNDARIES are the same, they are the limits we create to keep us safe and the way we will allow other people to behave towards us.
The EMOTIONAL ABUSER understands your BOUNDARIES during the IDEALISATION stage and they very slowly broke them down. They started by pushing against them to see how far they could go and what they could get away with.
You may have told them you weren’t happy about their behaviour and they apologised but continued.
You may have caught them cheating and they were so sorry. But during this stage they are IDEALISING you and getting you addicted to the hormones that keep you trapped in the relationship. It is done so subtly you don’t realise this is what they are doing. No means no: it doesn’t mean maybe.
Set boundaries and make sure you stick to them.
Check-in with yourself and ask how you feel and if this is really what you want…
The A to Z of Emotional Abuse - get your copy here. The A to Z of Emotional Abuse
Whats your ROI? Know your worth, the narcissist does | https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jan 03, 2023
Tuesday Jan 03, 2023
WELCOME TO EPISODE 39 AND WELCOME TO 2023 in this episode I want to share with you a technique to balance the stress.
How have you been over the last few weeks?
This time of year you can be forced into situations where you are with people you really don’t want to be with.
I have been doing a bit of binge watching of Greys Anatomy, I have see some episodes over the years but mainly because my daughters both watched it and I would be around. So I thought I would start at the beginning and Merediths relationship with her mother is something I wanted to discuss ALSO over the 3 years I have done a bit of #biohacking manifestation and I did some work with someone I met on that course and during the session she flipped box breathing on hits head for me so I will be sharing that as well!
What is the difference between a overt, covert or vulnerable narcissist? Everything you need to know
The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother
Have you ever wondered why NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS Treat Their Daughters differently?
#greysanatomy #boxbreathing #narcissiticabuse
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
I am not going to lie, I have had better years, I have also had worse.
For me personally I never felt like 2022 got going, but on the other hand it did.
I finally got off this island, not just once, but a few times, something I didn't think would happen. Initially I made it via a ferry over the most expensive piece to water to a very wet and windy Isle of White. I can't tell you how happy that made me.
here are the links I was talking about
Do resolutions work? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/blog/1757411_do-resolutions-work
Chakra Meditation https://youtu.be/phw1HrIuKp0
Guided Meditation https://youtu.be/ixxhz790Ifc
The misconception of healing from Narcissistic abuse https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-mindfuckery-podcast/id1617984105?i=1000590765279
and in 2023 I will share with you the name of my new book
Sending you loads of love until next year ♥️
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Dec 20, 2022
Tuesday Dec 20, 2022
Misconception
/ˌmɪskənˈsɛpʃn/
noun
a view or opinion that is incorrect because based on faulty thinking or understanding.
Let me be clear moving on is hard.
Emotional abuse is horrific.
WHEN YOU GET TRIGGERED, IT IS A MESSAGE FROM YOUR BODY. ONLY YOU WILL KNOW THE ANSWER.
They eroded every boundary you set.
Recovering from this takes dedication and a will.
It is a misconception that burning photos or deleting their number is all you need to do to move on.
It is a misconception that just moving on is all you need to do to get over them.
It is a misconception that telling the abuser who they are is all you need to do to get closure.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET AN APOLOGY.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET CLOSURE.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED THE PAIN ISN’T JUST GOING TO GO AWAY.
I see comments in mine and other groups which say move on, which is not helpful. By ignoring glossing over the pain, you are just putting a bandaid over a wound. These wounds run deep into your soul.
You don’t just move on from these relationships. Comments like "close the door in their face" or "burn their stuff", will not help you heal on the level you need to.
NOT EVERYONE HAS THIS OPPORTUNITY.
AND FOR THE ONES THAT DO GET IT, THERE WILL ONLY BE A FEW BRAVE ENOUGH TO TAKE IT.
Your body is talking to you, please listen.
Your body knows where the wound is, and it wants you to know on a conscious level which is why it nudges you. Your body wants to heal on a deeper level.
After everything you have been through, you deserve peace!
Divorcing Emotionally means they can no longer hurt you.
Also I show you how to embrace your inner queen and use her power
THE DIVORCE SANCTUARY • Inner Healing Sanctuary
FINDING LILY • Finding Lily
THE A to Z OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE • The A to Z of Emotional Abuse
FREE RESOURCES • Free Resources
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HOLD on tight for the ride of your life Sending you loads of ♥️
#BesselvanderKolk
#queenarchetype
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Narcissists, emotional abusers and other personality disordered individuals seem to love ruining any event that you hold precious.
Stop and think for a moment, look back over the various events, birthdays weddings Christmas Easter even holidays are never drama free.
You may be entering the season to be jolly feeling anything but!
It might be you have the left over trauma from the relationship, being gaslit and those feelings that would rise around this time of year are just waiting for the trigger…
There could be a lot of triggers
Breathing - https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Was it the Grinch who stole Christmas? What emotions are coming up for you around this time? I remember it well, I felt so alone and after a series of hoovers I managed to go no contact which helped me so much until I got a message from someone saying have you seen this…
This time of year can bring up so many emotions so in this podcast I have also included some was of staying grounded and what is really going on with the upgraded new version of your ex!
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Breathing - https://youtu.be/AJrA7BGAiwI
#mindfuckery #grinch #NPD
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
I did a podcast a few weeks ago that I titled the queens gambit
I woke up the other day with todays title so I quickly made note before I fully woke up and wondered what that was - I have special moments before I full awake - I get some much insight into things
A few weeks ago I was talking about how powerful we are and how the
The emotional abuser does’t see people they see objects
You’re the queen what’s your next move?
The Queen's Gambit is a move designed to secure control of the center of the board.
Episode 29 The Queens Gambit
The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8