The MINDFUCKERY Podcast
I’m your host Elizabeth Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA! Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU! I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
Welcome to episode 33
"Let's start at the very beginning" said Maria
"A very good place to start
When you read, you begin with A-B-C
When you sing, you begin with Do-Re-Mi…"
Changing your energy and using a trigger like a Caterpillar and create a metamorphosis in your life
Are you Spiritually Bypassing your healing? https://youtu.be/SZ_LyiPPxdg
#narcissistictriggers #emotionalabusetriggers
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Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
Inner-standing the importance of trauma is getting a bigger and bigger message, it is the basis of a lot of what we experience and also allow into our lives.
I started working in the area of healing past life trauma in 2002 and over the last 12 years I have moved into the this life and more recently how the trauma we experience in childhood imparts our lives.
Last weekend I watched a few videos with #gabormate and his new book #themythofnormal and I had to question some of my decisions, inner-standing the trauma that an abuser has experienced verses my boundaries and this week I talk about the difference between a trauma bond and childhood trauma and the questions I had to go through to check in with my decisions.
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
What's the meaning of the phrase 'Revenge is a dish best served cold'?
The proverbial phrase 'revenge is a dish best served cold' expresses the notion that vengeance is more satisfying when exacted some time after the harm that instigated it.I have been seeing a lot of questions again about Karma and using tactics on the abuser they used on you and getting back at them.
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Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Some common examples of coercive behaviour are:
Isolating you from friends and family or making you feel guilty for spending time with them
Depriving you of basic needs, such as food,
Monitoring your time
Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware
Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep
Depriving you access to support services, such as medical services
Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless
Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you
Controlling your finances
Making threats or intimidating you
COERCIVE CONTROL is described as an act, or a pattern of assault carried out through forms of threats, humiliation and intimidation.
Being a Narcissist isn’t against the law but Coercive Control is! https://youtu.be/SkyjCJ-6hUI
It stops here | it stops now | It stops here workshop
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Oct 25, 2022
Tuesday Oct 25, 2022
The emotional abuser does’t see people they see objects.
I was on a Reiki 1 course I was invited along to help on the course and during the weekend we were about to do a practice session on each other and the Reiki master said this to me 'if only you could see yourself in the way other people see you'.
She then went on to say 'if only you can yourself as your children seen you'.
There are moments this statement comes flying back into your conscious thoughts.
Resources
Chess.com
• know your worth the abuser does https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
• 7 Levels of Supply | Understanding your role in the Supply Chain https://youtu.be/G5neFPBhtz0
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Oct 18, 2022
Tuesday Oct 18, 2022
One of the most important things you can do is grieve the relationship, the past where the abuser created their persona and where you together created the fake future. The present for the life you should be living, this pain wasn't something you agreed to and the future.
I also talk about the wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal and your childhood wounds, something that is really hard to acknowledge.
sending you loads of love
downloadable course - grieve the past present and future Grieving the Past the Present and the future
#fakefuture #grief #grievingpastpresentfuture
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Have you ever heard statements like "I don’t know how you couldn’t see that as abuse" Or "Shouldn’t you be over this by now?"
Or perhaps you may have even frustrated people who thought they were trying to help you but were actually triggering you and spiralling you into rumination
I have recorded a few videos on the scapegoat and this moment in time is a perfect moment to go inside and track down the wounds from our childhood, the ones that might pop up every so often
They are the wounds that stopped you from realising this was abuse and they are the ones that keep you trapped in rumination believing this was all your fault.
HEALING THE SCAPEGOAT | https://youtu.be/76MWcOdrvno
Scapegoat • Golden Child • Invisible Child | Roles allocated by Emotionally Unhealthy Parents. | https://youtu.be/K0mWdy5_BiM
Scapegoating and Siblings | Scapegoating as a learnt behaviour | https://youtu.be/CdjXxD32OfU
The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother | https://youtu.be/A6O4Vz6tngM
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Wednesday Oct 05, 2022
Wednesday Oct 05, 2022
Six months ago I launched the Mindfuckery podcast and although this usually goes out on a Tuesday today and the launch both happened on a Wednesday.
I talk about why it is crucial to create a safe space and the power of synchronicity is this episode.
#selfcare
#synchronicity
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Sep 27, 2022
Tuesday Sep 27, 2022
Should you give the narcissist another chance?
You were either discarded or you made a decision that this is all too much and you want to end the relationship and then the abuser decides they want to change - this relationship is important to them for it to end now or they now realise what you had together, they can’t function without you or They may declare you were the one that got away
they so they want another chance - what do you do?
Inner Healing Sanctuary
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Sep 20, 2022
Tuesday Sep 20, 2022
When something ends and one person isn’t expecting it that can take them out of their comfort zone to say the least - but when that person has been in an abusive relationship it isn’t just getting to the same place your partner is in, they are poles apart.
As you start to realise that perhaps they really aren’t coming back it might trigger a wound of injustice (like other wounds) this one creates and emotional reaction within you.
The Wound of #Injustice is likely to originate from a #motherwound if you are female and a #fatherwound if you are male, if you have followed any of my work you will hear me talk about the original wounds.
The Divorce Sanctuary
Facebook Group
It Stops Here It Stops Now Course
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8