The MINDFUCKERY Podcast
I’m your host Elizabeth Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA! Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU! I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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Wednesday Jun 29, 2022
Wednesday Jun 29, 2022
Welcome to episode 13 in this one I want to talk about the rollercoaster of emotions
Emotional Abuse is unique and it is not like the ending of any relationship, a bit like a verruca it penetrates on so many different levels unless you get the whole of the virus it lays their dormant waiting to be triggered again.
If you have experienced emotional abuse then this will not be what you have or are experiencing.
You dance round a circle with them
IDEALISATION | DEVALUATION | DISCARD
The damage caused puts you in to a state of confusion, you had no idea abuse was taking place; like Chinese water torture, it happened very very slowly and it turned you insane!
This is about Power and Control
Grounding, breathing, and honest conversations are key, and you too can learn the route to accelerate your healing and create a new life ♥️]
Sending you loads of love
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jun 21, 2022
Tuesday Jun 21, 2022
Welcome to episode 12 in this episode I want to about the original wound and why it is so important to inner-stand what happens there is the foundation for our future.
I am here TO REMIND YOU THAT LOVE SHOULD BE UNCONDITIONAL and DIVORCING EMOTIONALLY IS life changing
EACH WEEK I WILL discuss SOME OF THE TERMS YOU MAY HEAR ALONG THIS JOURNEY AND I WILL HELP YOU INNER-STAND AND process what is happening INSIDE YOU!
I WILL HELP YOU FIND THE BEST TOOLS AS YOU start to take back THE control over your own life AND learn the tools to heal on a deeper level BECOMing THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
And in the words of Whitney "I believe the children are our future Teach them well and let them lead the way"
References:
Yale University - It causes so much damage Emotional Abuse and Brain Structural Damage
Dr Helen Fisher and her team at Rutgers University
Workshop - It stops here It stops now
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
In this episode I want to discuss reactions and why the emotional abuse loves to play with your emotions
This is coming up again in the my group The Divorce Sanctuary on FB so I thought I would talk about it this week.
They love pushing your buttons and they do or say things to get a reaction.
During the idealisation stage they listened to you - they validated you - they heard you in a way no one had ever done before they know your wounds - they know exactly where you wounds are.
They want you to respond this way - in fact they NEED you to react in this way - they are then able to say - this is what I had to put up with - look at this crazy person…
LEARN MY STOP DROP ROLL TECHNIQUE, I have ALSO used this in another video 7 Things you can do to Outsmart a Narcissist.
Healing the Original Wound is the ideal scenario but you can learn the tools to help you recover from this abuse.
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Jun 07, 2022
Tuesday Jun 07, 2022
Welcome to episode 10 in this episode I want to ask the question
Does GREY ROCK really work?
Grey Rock is a tool that can help you manage the contact you have with an emotionally abusive person, but does it really work?
No contact is the best way to manage a relationship with an emotionally abusive person, drop kick them out of your life and shut the door. But it isn’t alway as simple as that or easy to do.
Perhaps they are a family member or you work with this person and feel no contact is not an option either.
You might be in the process of divorcing them or you might have children together and they use them as an excuse to be in contact with you. Or you use the children to still play a part in their lives.
And as always I give your ideas for making this work and for your own healing.
Sending you loads of love
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday May 31, 2022
Tuesday May 31, 2022
Welcome to episode 9 in this one I want to talk about emotional abuse what is it and the tools the abuser’s uses to tie you up in their invisible chains
Unless you are a survivor of EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have no idea what it is like to have conversations in your head with a person you are no longer in contact with
Emotional Abuse is insidious which is proceeding in a gradual, subtle way, but with very harmful effects.
Unlike physical abuse The damage caused puts you into a state of confusion, you had no idea that the ABUSE was taking place; like Chinese water torture, it happened very, very slowly and it turns you insane!
In this episode I share a little bit of my story and talk about how and why I wrote my second book The A to Z of Emotional Abuse and I have taken just a few terms you might hear and described them.
Terms
MINDFUCKERY | CYCLE OF ABUSE | CIRCULAR CONVERSATIONS
ALIENATION | COERCIVE CONTROL | BAIT | BELITTLING
BLAME SHIFTING | FAKE TEARS | FUTURE FAKING | GASLIGHTING
JEALOUSY | MANUFACTURED EMOTIONS | MIRRORING
NARCISSISTIC RAGE | OBJECTIFICATION | PATHOLOGICAL LYING
PROJECTING | SHAMING | SILENT TREATMENT | SMEAR CAMPAIGN
TRIANGULATION | VICTIM | WORD SALAD | WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
Other resources I mention:
Grieving the Past Present & Future
It Stops Here, It Stops NOW!
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday May 24, 2022
Tuesday May 24, 2022
Examples of coercive behaviour: Isolating you, depriving you of basic needs, monitoring your time, taking control over aspects of your everyday life, humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you, controlling your finances, making threats or intimidating you
STOP the Rumination!
Find out more
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday May 17, 2022
Tuesday May 17, 2022
That gut feeling you have that you should or shouldn’t do something, say something, or believe someone, is so important and yet you may have a tendency to over-ride that ‘feeling’ and analyse the facts being presented to you.
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Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday May 10, 2022
Tuesday May 10, 2022
Emotional Abuse is unique and it is not like the ending of any relationship, a bit like a verruca it penetrates on so many different levels unless you get the whole of the virus it lays their dormant waiting to be triggered again.
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Tuesday May 03, 2022
The way you respond or react is your responsibility
They want you to respond, they NEED you to react so they can say look at this crazy person…
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
Tuesday Apr 26, 2022
The favourite tool of the emotional abuser triangulation.
I think gaslighting is their favourite tool and I am going to say triangulation is maybe their 2nd favourite one.
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
Check out my website here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8