The MINDFUCKERY Podcast
I’m your host Elizabeth Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA! Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU! I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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Wednesday Feb 28, 2024
Wednesday Feb 28, 2024
In this episode, I discuss manipulation and how we can tune in to it in our bodies.
I mentioned my YouTube video Know your value, the narcissist does!
https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
And I spoke about vibrations, which is what we experience and pick up energetically in these relationships
#mindfuckerypodcast is now the 5th out of the top 20 of must listen to podcasts for emotional abuse.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Wednesday Feb 21, 2024
Wednesday Feb 21, 2024
In this episode, I discuss what happening in the body and to our brains and what it is like to be trapped there.
Following on from last weeks podcast I explain how listening to our bodies and how they can react when trapped in emotionally abusive relationships .
As well as how you can use these feelings to help recover from the trauma.
I mention Dr Emoto's work with words and water and here you can see a video - https://youtu.be/5cyQVu_8EFc?si=ihMrzm4E0K45dkLe
And I spoke about vibrations, which is what we experience and pick up energetically in these relationships
Energy frequency and vibration - water - https://www.facebook.com/reel/388453376846311
Salt vibration experiment - https://youtu.be/wvJAgrUBF4w?si=2DCEhFpiQsePK6vq
#dremoto #waterexperiment
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Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
In this episode, I discuss living in #SurvivalMode and what it is like to be trapped there. I explain what could be the cause us to get trapped in emotionally abusive relationships . I also discuss why someone wouldn’t help you get out and would want to keep you trapped there .
I mention Ross Rosenburg’s book ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’ and George K Simon’s book ‘In Sheep’s Clothing.
Reference: S2 EP 20 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
STOP the Rumination NOW! Divorcing he Narcissist https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
HEALING FROM EMOTIONAL ABUSE • GROUNDING MEDITATION • Get out of your head https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Know your value, the narcissist does! https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
#rossrosenburg #georgeksimon #carolinemyss #woundology
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
I read a post with a quote from Matt Kahn this week which didn't resonate for me.
"Why are people not nice to you? Because they're treating you the way they treat themselves and the way they've been treated by others, and they are showing you how much love lacks in their lives. Which means, they're crying out for love. And they don't know they're crying out for love and they're projecting onto you what you haven't done to keep them happy. So don't give them what they want, give them what they need: Love."
But what if the person crying out for love isn't able to accept it?
For me, anyone trapped in or wanting the abuser back—whether consciously or unconsciously—this would indicate to them, they are doing the right thing by staying and giving love. Or trapped not able to move on.
#mattkhan #carolinemyss #woundology
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
Being in your body is so very important when you are recovering. The gaslighting that took place convinced you that what you thought was true was a lie and what was a lie was the truth. This is your very own Alice through the looking glass moment. The phrase1 ‘Through the Looking Glass’ can be viewed as a metaphor for any time the world suddenly appears unfamiliar, almost as if things were turned upside down. – similar to looking out from inside the mirror to find a world both recognizable and yet turned inside-out.
Grounding and breathing are very quick ways of stopping the thoughts in their tracks before you lose days and weeks to rumination.
Coming out of these relationships you have more questions than answers and easily slip into rumination which is the process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts, which tend to be sad or dark. Rumination can be dangerous to your mental health, it prolongs your ability to think and process emotions.
By grounding into your body you stay out of your head which helps you process what has happened and what is happening to you. Breathing and counting also help you be in your body whilst balancing the stress hormones and calming down your nervous system.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
Contrary to what you are seeing life isn't sweet, they aren't living their best lives - they are living the same life with a different person.
That person, their new supply is able to offer them something you weren't. But his is another game - more acting involved.
If they aren't hooked yet they will be won't be experiencing the behind the scenes experience but it will come, unless they break free before that happens.
Healing is possible for you - grieving the past present and future is a good place to start!
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#gabormatte
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
Welcome to episode 41.
RELATIONSHIP CLOSURE INVOLVES HONEST, HEALTHY, NON-JUDGMENTAL COMMUNICATION THAT HELPS WITH LETTING GO.
Being denied CLOSURE when you're breaking up is unhealthy; it's damaging, destructive and controlling.
I am seeing a lot of people questioning if the abuser has changed as they are seeing a different person - does a leopard change its spots?
The podcast - what's wrong with me can be heard here - https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-jy6ti-14dcbb2
And the link to my Free Resources page is here https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-jy6ti-14dcbb2
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
This the first podcast on 2024 (officially).
This podcast is about moving forward, energy and how to take what we want and turn it or transform it into a shiny new future.
Referencing back to Episode 37 and the Faraday Cage I spoke about the ultimate goal which is living an #authentic life. What does that mean for you?
And also referencing Episode 38 for the QuantumGlow healing you can get a personalised one here - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/quantumglowc
And download my workbook THAT'S FOR ME here https://thedivorcesanctuary.etsy.com/uk/listing/1632676297/manifestation-journal-thats-for-me
What is it you can feel and how do you want to feel? Let's see if we can make it a reality for you!
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
Due to flu this week I am sharing an interview with John Kenny in November.
These are his show notes:
John interviews Elizabeth Goddard, founder of the Divorce Sanctuary and author of the book "Divorce Matters." Elizabeth shares her expertise in dealing with divorces involving manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
She discusses the importance of emotionally divorcing from a narcissistic ex-spouse and offers practical advice on navigating the divorce process, including financial considerations and negotiating assets.
Elizabeth also introduces the concept of "woundology," a healing approach that addresses past life wounds and ancestral trauma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Elizabeth Goddard's book, "Divorce Matters," is a comprehensive workbook and healing guide for individuals going through a divorce with manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
Emotional divorcing is an important aspect of separating from a narcissistic or manipulative partner, as it involves managing your own emotions and reactions to their behaviour.
Woundology is a concept that Elizabeth specialises in, which involves healing past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma, and addressing current life wounds that may be affecting relationships.
The book "Divorce Matters" covers practical aspects of divorce, such as finances and asset splitting, while also addressing the emotional side of the process and providing tools for healing and moving forward.
Elizabeth's work with wounds and trauma can be beneficial for individuals who have experienced emotional abuse or have unresolved wounds that are impacting their relationships. Her website, Divorce Sanctuary, provides more information on her services and how to work with her.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's a workbook healing book. It's an encompassed everything to help people who are divorcing through or divorcing manipulative people, people that are going to manipulate the process, hide things."
"Financial control is huge. So, and it happens and this is something that continues after the divorce as well. There is an element that they will control the day it gets paid."
"It's about letting them think they've won. I had a bonus when I was working quite a few years ago and I bought this huge TV and surround sound TV and DVD player. And it was my ex-husband like he was in heaven."
"It's about healing some of those wounds, not just those, but other stuff as well. There might be money stuff that comes down, there might have been abuse stuff or trauma that comes back down through this ancestral line."
"I was able to contact that part of me that wanted that attention that needed that attention that was in pain. And I was able to talk to her, calm her down. And it just changed everything."
ABOUT THE HOST Links: https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Wednesday Dec 27, 2023
Wednesday Dec 27, 2023
This week is slightly different I am offering a distance healing - the instructions are in the podcast and are for wounds of:
Abandonment
Betrayal
Humiliation
Injustice
Shame
Neglect
Powerlessness
I tuned in collectively for anyone who wishes to heal - for those that don't I will be back next week with another podcast.
If you would like to book a personal healing you can book here:
https://thedivorcesanctuary.etsy.com/uk/listing/1633379111/quantumglow-healing
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard