The MINDFUCKERY Podcast
I’m your host Elizabeth Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA! Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU! I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
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Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
Tuesday Jan 30, 2024
Being in your body is so very important when you are recovering. The gaslighting that took place convinced you that what you thought was true was a lie and what was a lie was the truth. This is your very own Alice through the looking glass moment. The phrase1 ‘Through the Looking Glass’ can be viewed as a metaphor for any time the world suddenly appears unfamiliar, almost as if things were turned upside down. – similar to looking out from inside the mirror to find a world both recognizable and yet turned inside-out.
Grounding and breathing are very quick ways of stopping the thoughts in their tracks before you lose days and weeks to rumination.
Coming out of these relationships you have more questions than answers and easily slip into rumination which is the process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts, which tend to be sad or dark. Rumination can be dangerous to your mental health, it prolongs your ability to think and process emotions.
By grounding into your body you stay out of your head which helps you process what has happened and what is happening to you. Breathing and counting also help you be in your body whilst balancing the stress hormones and calming down your nervous system.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
Tuesday Jan 23, 2024
Contrary to what you are seeing life isn't sweet, they aren't living their best lives - they are living the same life with a different person.
That person, their new supply is able to offer them something you weren't. But his is another game - more acting involved.
If they aren't hooked yet they will be won't be experiencing the behind the scenes experience but it will come, unless they break free before that happens.
Healing is possible for you - grieving the past present and future is a good place to start!
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#gabormatte
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
Tuesday Jan 16, 2024
Welcome to episode 41.
RELATIONSHIP CLOSURE INVOLVES HONEST, HEALTHY, NON-JUDGMENTAL COMMUNICATION THAT HELPS WITH LETTING GO.
Being denied CLOSURE when you're breaking up is unhealthy; it's damaging, destructive and controlling.
I am seeing a lot of people questioning if the abuser has changed as they are seeing a different person - does a leopard change its spots?
The podcast - what's wrong with me can be heard here - https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-jy6ti-14dcbb2
And the link to my Free Resources page is here https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-jy6ti-14dcbb2
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
Tuesday Jan 09, 2024
This the first podcast on 2024 (officially).
This podcast is about moving forward, energy and how to take what we want and turn it or transform it into a shiny new future.
Referencing back to Episode 37 and the Faraday Cage I spoke about the ultimate goal which is living an #authentic life. What does that mean for you?
And also referencing Episode 38 for the QuantumGlow healing you can get a personalised one here - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/quantumglowc
And download my workbook THAT'S FOR ME here https://thedivorcesanctuary.etsy.com/uk/listing/1632676297/manifestation-journal-thats-for-me
What is it you can feel and how do you want to feel? Let's see if we can make it a reality for you!
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
Tuesday Jan 02, 2024
Due to flu this week I am sharing an interview with John Kenny in November.
These are his show notes:
John interviews Elizabeth Goddard, founder of the Divorce Sanctuary and author of the book "Divorce Matters." Elizabeth shares her expertise in dealing with divorces involving manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
She discusses the importance of emotionally divorcing from a narcissistic ex-spouse and offers practical advice on navigating the divorce process, including financial considerations and negotiating assets.
Elizabeth also introduces the concept of "woundology," a healing approach that addresses past life wounds and ancestral trauma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Elizabeth Goddard's book, "Divorce Matters," is a comprehensive workbook and healing guide for individuals going through a divorce with manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
Emotional divorcing is an important aspect of separating from a narcissistic or manipulative partner, as it involves managing your own emotions and reactions to their behaviour.
Woundology is a concept that Elizabeth specialises in, which involves healing past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma, and addressing current life wounds that may be affecting relationships.
The book "Divorce Matters" covers practical aspects of divorce, such as finances and asset splitting, while also addressing the emotional side of the process and providing tools for healing and moving forward.
Elizabeth's work with wounds and trauma can be beneficial for individuals who have experienced emotional abuse or have unresolved wounds that are impacting their relationships. Her website, Divorce Sanctuary, provides more information on her services and how to work with her.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's a workbook healing book. It's an encompassed everything to help people who are divorcing through or divorcing manipulative people, people that are going to manipulate the process, hide things."
"Financial control is huge. So, and it happens and this is something that continues after the divorce as well. There is an element that they will control the day it gets paid."
"It's about letting them think they've won. I had a bonus when I was working quite a few years ago and I bought this huge TV and surround sound TV and DVD player. And it was my ex-husband like he was in heaven."
"It's about healing some of those wounds, not just those, but other stuff as well. There might be money stuff that comes down, there might have been abuse stuff or trauma that comes back down through this ancestral line."
"I was able to contact that part of me that wanted that attention that needed that attention that was in pain. And I was able to talk to her, calm her down. And it just changed everything."
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Wednesday Dec 27, 2023
Wednesday Dec 27, 2023
This week is slightly different I am offering a distance healing - the instructions are in the podcast and are for wounds of:
Abandonment
Betrayal
Humiliation
Injustice
Shame
Neglect
Powerlessness
I tuned in collectively for anyone who wishes to heal - for those that don't I will be back next week with another podcast.
If you would like to book a personal healing you can book here:
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
Last week I said I would talk further about creating a safe environment and creating safety within a relationship and like everything this is an inside job.
This week I share the feeling of inner-standing and listening with your body.
This is such a power tool that will help you with creating boundaries and listening to other peoples energy.
Once you have built up the trust in what you are feeling you can use this to protect yourself and find out what is safe for you.
#schumannresonance
#BesselvanderKolk
#Faraday cage
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
I asked my group members this week what they NEEDED at the moment and gave them a list of 10 Empowered, Validated, Connected, Understood, Resilient, Hopeful, Confident, Loved or Free - the one with the most votes is Safe - A sense of safety and security in their environment and relationships so this week I thought I would share some ideas to create a safe environment - this allows you body to heal, to relax for a moment or two.
I have spoken over the last few weeks about writing out the story and now powerful this is towards your recovery and helping you out of rumination.
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Breathing - https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Following a series of YouTube videos I posted the terms on instagram and wrote this article for Thrive Global article - GLOSSARY TERMS A-Z of Emotional Abuse Terminology used relating to narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy - https://community.thriveglobal.com/a-z-of-emotional-abuse/
This resulted in a message from the publishers asking if this was my next book - and I thought what a great idea and starting writing The A to Z of Emotional Abuse - Dictionary of narcissistic terms - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
EP 20 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal - https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Have you heard of The Castle by John Welwood? In this episode I talk about this and how we lose out identity through the abuse. I first heard of it when I was listening to Debbie Ford's The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.
How do we lose our identity?
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I also read The Hopi Creation Story which I used first in Finding Lily and again in The A to Z of Emotional abuse.
#johnwelwood #thecastleanalogy #Debbieford #darksideofthelightchasers
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
Do labels help you and your recovery? Is your EX a NARCISSIST? Does it really matter? The goal is to DIVORCE EMOTIONALLY from the abuse so you feel nothing towards them but that doesn't happen over night. There could be many layers to recovery before you get to that point. One way to help with your recovery is to write out the story. By doing this you can see the patterns and the story becomes your own encyclopaedia or dictionary and will help you see the patterns of the relationship. Keeping you out of rumination and helping you break the trauma bond. #RossRosenberg #Humanmagnetsyndrome
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Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/emotionaldivorcewarrior/
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard